user Xiao Jie:
Hello, there is a problem, always wanted to ask you.
I’m generation, but my father is a stubborn guy, he did not allow me to University of love, does not permit me to do a lot of things I want to do, not my contact with the boys. Even even I go skating, he said it would be in danger, I am a high school graduate, I have my own ideas, have something they want to do, but he has been asking me this or that, I say I have my own ideas, he called me, saying I do not understand anything.
now of I, only wanted to fast points left home, don’t then back, I and he from small doesn’t in together, is on I views also is is large, admitted undergraduate also to called, what thing are is I do of bad, I know this is he on I expectations high of performance, but such I is tired, I began hate this home, hate and he talk, even do not want to then home has, Shang has University on is no longer back. And my father is not the way, don’t send me how and what he’s talking advice, will not work, thanks!
what should I do? Could you help me please? I await your reply!
the emotional experts reply:
small Jie,
Hello! See your talk I am understood, because I think we’ve had for some time, so we have a shared thoughts and ideas.
I think our adolescents are rebellious and grumpy, so I understand your thoughts and behaviors; this is as you say, you did and father of communication is not enough, start early, this is the crux of the problem. So to solve the problem of nature is the simplest and most effective method of communication, of course, I say that communication is effective and rational communication, rather than run away from home or do not interact with each other. Hope that after listening to my analysis, your ability to interpret and understand, the main hope is your problem can be resolved.
parents angry with us, is innocent; us, in essence, it is nothing wrong.
in some cases, we believe that parents too much pressure on us, education is wrong, or is detrimental to the US, parents do not think that you did not listen to what he said was a dutiful, is bad: all this is because we understand communication between is not enough, so he caused misunderstandings, even we had short hated.
following I to father and you of angle respectively analysis about you and he of idea ’s:
does not let you love, does not let you and men children contact, is because he hope you can static Xia heart to learning, he hope you has a bright of future, don’t go he of suffer of road; he see men children too bad, . this world too complex, fear you taken, only will such do of.
and you needs of is space, is free, like is born calf defy Tiger as of, on this world know of too less, has too more of curious has too more of expectations, wants to out such was bound of life, monotone of mode; and father more does not let, you of curiosity on more strong, on more wanted to rushed out, so incentive of contradictions on produced has.
it can be said that you and dad is doesn’t know any better, do not know how to take the initiative to understand, not-for-bit torn, would not recognize the error. Who refused to take the initiative to understand, communicate, then continue, you will make more stiff. Could you give me feedback have you too much information on his father’s disgust, then you know that fathers are crying for you, or you have no way to do anxious?
father scolded when trying, he is not wrong, is good for themselves, then he is not wrong, what you cannot accept and tolerate it? Such wanted to, at least can in then does not let you are does not caused too large of conflict; and afterwards, in he happy of when, in relatives of help Xia, say to own of idea, try with again and again to persuaded, drop stone wearing, Association successfully; actually, Shang has University, he also impossible always then to followed you has, some just mouth Shang said said Bale, so some things you does not must to in accordance with the he of idea to do Ah, can goodwill of cheat, this does not shameful, because you is in for you is in for he, is not did?
the best way to resolve the war not use war, at least while you are not under the premise of 100% to win this war. What do you think? You be the idea of the child and know how to active growth and progress, I hope you know how to understand, will you?